It's not easy, but it's worth it?!?

Ok, I've heard this one many many times. In regards to so many things it's insane.

"It's not easy, but it's worth it"

Along with;

"This too shall pass"

My middle kiddo has used a bottle for a long time. He's almost 3.5 years old. I get it, it's a long time. But, it comforts him, and I'd hardly like someone to take away my comforts. I can't imagine what it would be like to have someone say "nope, not any more" to the things that calm me.

But, alas, I did it. Ack! It's been 6 days and I'm still battling the tantrums. Tonight he screamed for over an hour at bedtime because he could not have a bottle. This afternoon he had 4 meltdowns. I stood my ground. 

I don't feel bad for him crying, I don't feel bad for standing my ground, so don't get my feelings in this one wrong. I simply feel bad for taking the thing that comforts him away from him. Cruel. That's how I feel it is. Not necessary; that's another thing I think it is. 

I did it though, because society expects it of him, expects it of me. And if I refuse I am therefore labelled a bad mom by other moms. Who just don't understand the reason behind him having one. 

It's true, he doesn't NEED a bottle. The truth is he WANTS a bottle, it makes him feel better and makes him feel safe. And I wish that was enough.

XX,

The Guilty Mom